Summary
This article examines Muslims feeling embarrassed or ashamed to practice Islam due to external pressure and internal weaknesses, emphasizing maintaining faith, avoiding extreme reactions, correcting community shortcomings wisely, and preserving Islamic identity without compromising belief or unity.
Islamic Behavior
Such anecdotes are innumerable and are increasing every day. What feelings do they arouse in you? Wonder? Despise? Anger? Approval? Grief? Or none? Is there something wrong with this kind of behavior that is becoming more and more common and fashionable every day? (1) Let us look at the first example. Being part of the Muslim community is part of faith, and so is being patient at their shortcomings and enduring other Muslims’ failings while working to improve them. No one is perfect, and this is especially true of our Muslim community that is going through tremendous cultural, spiritual, and intellectual challenges and often failing to meet them. In this story, there are several major failings, not one. Those who abandon a Muslim community and the masjid because of one pet-peeve sort of issue, those who fail to provide reasonable accommodation for Muslim women at the masjid, at times when our sisters have little else to go to, and those who fail to offer reasonable advice to such reactionary Muslims, are all responsible for this serious mishap. As a result, one more Muslim community has been split up. More Muslim kids are going to grow up with the tales of petty infighting and lack of meaningful dialog. Our Muslim brother here is setting a terrible example that betrays self-righteousness, lack of tolerance and understanding towards other Muslims. To top it off, he is writing about this in national media as if to demean the masjid-going Muslims and relish his own superiority, seeking sighs of sympathy and nods of approval from non-Muslims readers who are already totally convinced of how Muslims need to be liberated from Islam and liberalized according to their norms. (2) In the second example, one responsible, grown up, well-respected Muslim, editor of a famous Muslim magazine, flaunts shaving off his beard in response to how some other misguided Muslims prevented others from shaving off their beards. Keeping beard is a personal business, an act of personal piety, which should not be forced, nor used, as a political or publicity weapon. Our editor who thought of his beard as a means of showing solidarity against the Taliban was no less mistaken than the Taliban themselves whose narrow understanding of religion and politics led them to enforce such things. Muslim women wear hijab in order to fulfill Allah’s direct commandment, and part of its benefit is that thus they consolidate their identity and distinction. Men grew beards for similar reasons. Our beloved Prophet ﷺ encouraged us to grow beards and shorten the moustache, and the majority of the four major Muslim schools of jurisprudence conclude that the beard is an obligation for Muslim men. We would not abandon Islam if some fanatics in some part of the world coerce others to become Muslims. We don’t abandon hijab just because some cultures coerce their members to wear hijab while ignoring its spirit. We do it for Allah, and Allah alone. In both cases, we observe strong reactions by Muslims to other Muslims’ actions that were admittedly incorrect or problematic. The knee-jerk reaction of these ‘liberated’ and progressive Muslims, unfortunately, was not sympathy, understanding, advice, correction, or tolerance, but rather strong, equally fanatic rejection followed by self-righteous publicity of their actions, especially among non-Muslims. (3) The third example depicts the widespread apologetic, defensive and almost ashamed-of-being-a-Muslim mood in America. (4) In the fourth example, our ‘Islamic scholar’ is perturbed by Muslims’ narrow-mindedness in everything, from not clapping to wearing hijab. How on earth can such people encourage others to learn about and embrace Islam, when they themselves seem to be regretting it? The truth is, that many are unsure of their faith. This uncertainty in faith is the greatest problem Muslims of the world face today, or ever. Those of us growing up in Western non-Muslim societies are naturally the biggest victims of this uncertainty, though the Westernized elite in the Muslim world is perhaps no better. On the other hand, we cannot ignore the other end of the spectrum in the Muslim community, which is equally harmful. The truth is that those who fail to understand the essence of faith and fanatically hold on to the appearances or cultural hang-ups, who exclude Muslim women from positive contribution and participation, who force appearances of piety rather than inculcating the beauty of inner faith and leading by example, who refuse to adapt and accommodate even in ways quite permissible in Islam, and who reject others’ legitimate opinions, all of these are equally responsible for disintegrating Muslim unity and subverting the cause of Islam.Sticking to Our Middle Path
A couple of decades ago, the learned Shaykh Yusuf Al-Qardawi wrote an excellent and timely treatise by the English title, Islamic Reawakening between Rejection and Extremism (2007, International Institute of Islamic Thought). The lessons from the books are still valid in many ways, though much has evolved since. Rather than outright secular rejectionism by the Westernized elite of that time, today we see growing numbers of Muslims, especially the Westernized intellectuals and youth, who espouse the name and slogans of Islam but fight in the name of Western ideals of humanism, democracy and secularism. Much of the Muslim community still remains conservative and immovable either way. The enemies of Allah’s path are active and powerful, luring and killing our youth one by one with the poisons of doubts and desires, slowly but surely. In this wilderness, where are the voices of faith and reason? Let us seek them out, listen to them, and strengthen them.Frequently Asked Question
Answering the most relevant questions to help you better understand the article.
Examples include abandoning the masjid over disagreements, shaving beards in protest, avoiding daʿwah, and publicly criticizing Islamic practices to gain approval from non-Muslims.
Leaving the community over disagreements weakens unity, encourages division, and sets harmful examples, especially for younger Muslims observing internal conflicts.
These acts are performed to obey Allah’s command and follow the Prophet ﷺ, not in response to cultural pressures or political situations.
Some respond with rejection, publicity, and self-righteous criticism instead of sympathy, advice, patience, and constructive correction.
Many Muslims feel apologetic, defensive, and uncertain about their faith, making them reluctant to openly practice or share Islam.
Uncertainty weakens commitment, discourages practicing Islam confidently, and prevents Muslims from encouraging others to embrace Islam.
Extremism, exclusion, forcing outward practices, and rejecting legitimate opinions contribute to division and weaken the strength of the Muslim community.
Muslims should remain part of the community, show patience with its flaws, and work constructively toward improvement rather than abandoning it
External influences spread doubts and desires, weakening faith and drawing youth away from Islamic commitment and identity.
Muslims should seek voices of faith and reason, strengthen belief, and remain balanced between rejection of Islam and harmful extremism.

