Summary
This article explains a Muslim father’s role in supporting breastfeeding, emphasizing his responsibility to provide for and assist the mother, facilitate a healthy nursing relationship, advocate for her well-being, and appreciate her efforts in nurturing their child.
IN THE QURAN, Allah says:
Mothers shall breastfeed their children for two whole years, for those who wish to complete the term. Upon the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable. [Sûrat Al-Baqarah, 2:233-234]
So vastly important is the act of breastfeeding that Allah mentions it specifically in His book and sets down His recommendations for its duration. He requires a father to provide for the mother’s basic needs during the time period. Beyond the essentials, what else can Muslim fathers do to ensure that their wives and children are going to have the best possible chance for a healthy, successful nursing relationship? And why should fathers invest so much in breastfeeding in the first place? The benefits of full-time breastfeeding far outweigh the use of baby formula—and thus the extra work required during the breastfeeding period merits the father’s time and effort in supporting his nursing wife. While articles about the advantages of breastfeeding are plentiful, and a simple web search can reveal hundreds of useful facts, I will summarize some of the main ones here: Breastfeeding has innumerable benefits to infants’ health.- Breast milk contains the perfect balance of protein, vitamins, fat, enzymes and hormones that infants need to grow and thrive. No man-made formula can replicate human milk. According to Dr. William Sears:Human milk is a live substance containing live white blood cells and immune-fighting substances, and is a dynamic, changing nutritional source, which daily (sometimes hourly) adjusts to meet the individual needs of a growing baby. Formulas are nothing more than a collection of dead nutrients. They do not contain living white cells, digestive enzymes, or immune factors.” (http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/feeding-eating/bottle-feeding/comparision-formulas-and-breastmilk)
- Breast milk contains antibodies to fight and prevent illness. Pneumonia, colds, and viruses are reduced in breastfed babies, as are chronic conditions like diabetes, celiac disease and Crohn’s disease. (http://www.fitpregnancy.com/baby/breastfeeding/20-breastfeeding-benefits-mom-baby)
- Breastfeeding encourages mothers to be more responsive and attached to their children, which then influences the children’s IQ, positively. (https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/02/140226155645.htm).
- According to the American Academy of Paediatrics, “Breastfeeding provides health benefits for mothers beyond emotional satisfaction. Mothers who breastfeed recover from childbirth more quickly and easily. The hormone oxytocin, released during breastfeeding, acts to return the uterus to its regular size more quickly and can reduce postpartum bleeding.”
- Women who have breastfed, studies show, experience reduced rates of breast and ovarian cancer later in life. Some studies have found that breastfeeding may reduce the risk of developing type 2 diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, and cardiovascular disease, including high blood pressure and high cholesterol.
- Finally, exclusive breastfeeding delays the return of the mother’s menstrual period, which can help extend the time between pregnancies.” (https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/breastfeeding/Pages/Benefits-of-Breastfeeding-for-Mom.aspx)
- The cost of formula feeding one child for one year is between $800 and $3,000, depending on the price and quality of the formula. (http://kellymom.com/pregnancy/bf-prep/bfcostbenefits/) .
- Also, since formula-fed children are not protected from some illnesses like breastfed children are, the cost of medical bills should be factored in. Breastfeeding saves money on office visits, treatments, and medication.
What Dad Can Do
Now that it is abundantly clear that the natural feeding of baby is beneficial for the whole family and indeed for the whole Ummah, here is what fathers can do to support their wives optimally during the nursing period:- Realize that the first few months after childbirth are crucial for establishing the nursing relationship. Especially if this is the first time she is nursing a child, mom will need some time to adjust to the demands. It is best for baby to suckle frequently for two reasons: (1) Breast milk is quickly digested, and thus babies quickly get hungry again. (2) The more baby sucks, the more milk is produced.Substituting with a bottle or a pacifier will likely reduce mother’s milk supply.Both husband and wife should understand from the beginning that the nursing mom will need to spend several hours a day holding and nursing the baby. In fact, in the first months, it will feel like all she does is nurse the baby! This is normal and actually healthy for both mom and nursling.
- To enable mother to bond with her child and nurse as much as necessary, fathers should help as much as they can around the house, or hire help if possible. While she is dedicating countless hours to child care, she will not have as much time to tend to household duties.Again, the first few months of an infant’s life are when breastfeeding is most time-consuming. If you can afford to hire help with housework and/or cooking, or if you can accept meals and assistance from family and friends, now is the time to do it.
- Recognize that your lactating wife is sacrificing and doing very important work. It might look like all ease and relaxation to sit and nurse a baby, but actually her body is working hard to produce milk, and meeting a newborn’s needs can be exhausting. In fact, lactating mothers need to consume 400-500 extra calories per day to produce milk. It can be mentally and physically taxing to be on duty, as mothers are, 24/7.Remember that your wife is likely not getting a full night’s sleep. Recognize that she wishes she could get up, have a leisurely cup of coffee, chat with friends, and have a few minutes alone. Those are “luxuries” that she will probably forgo during the first several months of baby’s life. She might also feel anxious and guilty about the piles of laundry waiting to be folded, the dusty shelves, or the clutter around the house.This is the time for both of you to make your infant’s well-being the main priority. The first year of baby’s life is a short but crucial epoch. Her brain is developing, her body is rapidly growing, and the best possible place for her is her parents’ arms, and the best possible food is mother’s milk. Let housework and entertaining be low on the priority list at this time.
- Be your wife’s advocate. Over the years, many sisters have confided in me that just a day or two after giving birth, they were already expected to be out of bed, cooking, cleaning, and serving tea to family members and guests. This is unhealthy and unfair!A woman who has just given birth needs and deserves rest. Her body has gone through a huge trial. Her hormones are in upheaval, causing moodiness and sometimes sadness or anxiety. Bonding with her baby, breastfeeding, and healing are the only things she should be doing for the first couple months. If she has had a cesarean section or a traumatic birth, she might need even more time to heal.There must be a leader who will set the tone for the first months after baby’s birth. That person is you, Muslim father! You can lead the way in so many positive ways. You can discuss with your wife which visitors, if any, will be permitted in the first weeks after birth. Visitors should be extremely limited, as a newborn should not be exposed to germs, and a mother should not have to use her energy to be a hostess.Even close family members should keep their visit short and make themselves useful. They can do so many things to help smooth the transition: bring meals, tidy up, entertain older children, take care of house plants or pets.If you do not feel comfortable asking them for help, at the very least you can be your wife’s spokesman. Say what needs to be said and be her protector and advocate. Gently remind everyone that she needs rest and privacy to take care of herself and the baby. There is no need to be apologetic about this; in fact, it will be clear that you are a father who cares deeply about your family.
- Help her find assistance, if she needs it. While breastfeeding is natural, difficulties can arise. Baby might have trouble latching on, or mom might experience pain.Many families give up on breastfeeding when the going gets tough. Please do not give up too quickly! Almost all breastfeeding problems have relatively easy solutions. Certified Lactation Consultants are trained to help diagnose and fix problems. Hospitals and doctors can recommend a consultant in your area. La Leche League International is a non-profit group that offers free breastfeeding support and education, as well as meetings. (http://www.llli.org.)Breastfeeding is now recognized as both a science and an art. Old wives’ tales about breastfeeding should be avoided, as up-to-date research, discoveries, and strategies have revolutionized the way we approach breast milk and breastfeeding. I cannot stress this enough: Do not give up too quickly! There is almost always a solution to any breastfeeding problem! Moms just need extra support at this time.
- Express your appreciation to your child’s mother. The Prophet ﷺ said: The best of you is the best to your wives. (Tirmidhi)
Frequently Asked Question
Answering the most relevant questions to help you better understand the article.
The father is responsible for providing the mother’s maintenance and clothing according to what is acceptable during the breastfeeding period.
Breastfeeding benefits the health of infants and mothers, strengthens family well-being, and offers advantages that merit a father’s support and involvement.
They are crucial for establishing the nursing relationship and helping the mother adjust to the demands of feeding her child.
Breast milk is digested quickly, and frequent nursing helps stimulate and maintain the mother’s milk supply.
Fathers can assist with housework, cooking, and other duties or arrange additional help so the mother can focus on nursing and caring for the baby.
Producing milk and caring for a newborn require significant physical and emotional effort, often with limited rest and personal time.
The infant’s well-being, growth, and development should take priority over housework, entertaining guests, and other less essential concerns.
He can protect her need for rest and privacy, limit unnecessary visitors, and ensure she can focus on recovery, bonding, and breastfeeding.
They should help mothers find qualified support, such as lactation consultants or breastfeeding organizations, rather than giving up too quickly.
He should acknowledge her efforts, express love and gratitude, and recognize the valuable gift she is giving their child.
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Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Why complicate it so much? We tend to make a fuss of nothing, really.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
I love this article!!
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Saira Umm Yusuf read this.
Thanks for sharing! ??
Thanks for sharing! ?
Thanks for sharing! ?
Thanks for sharing! ?
Thanks for sharing! ?
Thanks for sharing! ?
Thanks for sharing! ?
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
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If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Of course if *men* were breastfeeding, we’d hear a whole different story…
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
Ideally he should be paying her to do it, too, but I guess as with so many other aspects of what women are entitled to ya3ni we just all doing the work of three women for free lol
The breastfeeding mother is actually entitled to ask for compensation for breastfeeding the child. And if she doesn’t wish to breastfeed herself, she can request that he pays for a wetnurse for up to 2 years.
Yes in theoryland lol
Yes, then men would have breasts and that would just be awkward :p
No, I mean in Islam a woman can ask to be compensated. If the couple were to be divorced at this time,
(hit enter by mistake)
If the couple were to be divorced at this time, the father doesn’t only support the child financially, but the mother can claim compensation for feeding his child.
A woman’s environmental factors directly effect her ability to breastfeed. Some men just do not understand this. They may not have sisters or young females in their household – or it’s not spoken of. Articles like this may be an eye opener, especially if the wife’s pleas for help and understanding fall on deaf ears. Some people need the simplest things explained to them – like help your wife, don’t expect too much, let her concentrate on her newborn. I know many men that expect their Wives to be back on track as soon as they come home – when in fact she’ll need at least 6 weeks to heal from the pain, get used to her body changes and generally to bond with baby. Happy mummy = happy baby. It definitely is not making a fuss over nothing. It’s the most important thing.
Why complicate what?
Ummah Babies
Love this! Thank you Shoohada for thinking of the page! :)
Ummah Babies
Love this! Thank you Shoohada for thinking of the page! :)
Ummah Babies
Love this! Thank you Shoohada for thinking of the page! :)
Ummah Babies
Love this! Thank you Shoohada for thinking of the page! :)
Ummah Babies
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Ummah Babies
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Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
Zainab Bagodonuts
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
What Should be the Role of a Father???
Breastfeeding and post-partum care. Post-partum depression is real in some cases and should be addressed, but everything else is individual. Someone needs 6 weeks to recover, someone is up the next day. You can not set rules, and generalize.
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
I love this! Alhamdolilah my husband has always been supportive! And it is so important
LOL no woman is up the next day unless she is not given a choice.
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
Ahmed Iqbal Khan
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
I was up and 42
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Inas Abusheikha
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Beautiful article and so true get all the rest you need and most importantly work as a team and don’t give up breastfeeding full time is hard but I know you can do it ?inshallah
Generalizing, yet again. I walked by myself to the NICU with an iv-drip and nursed my child, every few. hours. Do I want a medal for it? No. You have to do it regardless of the applause. The One who gave you the child awarded you with a highest reward, recognized your jihad through it, and yet you are asking a recognition and glorification from a mere, forgetful mortal? Lol. You know how many women go back to work, because they have to, and breastfeed their children, even if it means pumping into oblivion, in a broom closet? You just do what you gotta do. And honestly glorification of the most natural thing in the world, in a country where everything on a press of the button,while you have sisters still today, who pump water on the wells or crush ice to boil it for baby clothes is not feminism. It’s pure whining. You see the times that we are in? They will get worse. And yet you bicker, when we even do not have the men to defend us? Give me a break.
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Mazin Ahmad
Višnja Hasičević ma’sha’Allah .. well sald!! jazakallahu khayra Ameen ..
Sis Višnja, nobody is complicating anything. No one is asking for applause or glory. Just a little understanding from husbands. I had an extremely difficult time establishing breastfeeding and could never have done it without my husband’s support & understanding alhamdulillah. There are many like me who face issues, just as there are many alhamdulillah who don’t. For those with issues it would help if the husbands are educated on breastfeeding issues and how to support mother & child. This article simply does that – educate. Now that can’t be a bad thing can it? :)
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Such a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.
Shahirah Mohamed Ansari , we all did. I never said it was easy, or enlightening, lol. I just think we need to get a little tougher, not rely on the husbands that much, and stop underestimating ourselves. Yes, the support is wonderful but ultimately you’ll be the one doing it, just like you’ll be the one delivering it no matter how many times he attends, he wil never know the pain of it and you cannot blame him for it. I believe we are growing toughness in wrong places that’s all. We are better then that.
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
San Bungkus
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Ahmed Tahir
Sounds very much like a high & haughty, mighty woman we have here. Not every women is as lucky or as strong minded & hearted as you seem to proclaim yourself to be. People needs reminding, needs an eye opener, needs knowledge. Because, as mentioned, people are indeed mere forgetful mortal. What wrong is the article if it does provide the positives? There’s no need to look down on others just because you deem them to be “whining” & etc. Who are you to judge their ways. Dont get too high & mighty on your high horse, life has a way to make a person up there or down there. You may be strong now, but God knows you may need help in the future about this same thing you scorn other women for. One could take your words as a reminder if they see it that way, but perhaps your choice of words & tone of “voice” could have been put in a more eloquent way.
Ahahahaahha! Oh, I should’ve baby sitted the egos? My bad.. Nah. Enjoy your bubble.
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
Mohd Hissham
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
This is SO amazing!
As Nabi Muhammad SAW said before “your religion is your religion, my religion is my religion”.
Arguments will never cease. Hence, let’s each just go on to what we support and believe. Let’s respect each other’s opinion without being opinionated ourselves.
Humble is the word.
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Omar Khan
Sabah Ahmed
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Sabah Ahmed
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
Rizal Suhaimi
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
This is such an amazing article! Men often forget or are unaware of the sacrifices that comes with breastfeeding exclusively!
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Amina Issa
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
Aamir Dar
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
وليد ابن عثمان محمد
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Momina Ali
Interesting read. Think I’ve read bits of it before.
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Blarra Jeroff Sazza Roozi
Unfortunately, another case of a woman being harsh on another woman. Rahma. Gone.
Good article.
Good article.
Good article.
Good article.
Good article.
Good article.
Good article.